The Good


How do you love yourself? What does that look like? What does that feel like?

A young lady asked me that today. You would think that everyone knows how to do this, but she didn’t. She’s been busy looking for love in all the wrong places. Now she’s in pain, mad and frustrated.

This is how I answered her:

“You love yourself by only allowing good in your life because you don’t deserve the bad.

You love yourself by not filling your body with toxins, by not allowing anyone, including yourself, to abuse you emotionally or physically.

You love yourself by using what God has Blessed you with to accomplish everything you put your mind to do.

You love yourself the way you want to be loved, otherwise nobody else will.

You love yourself first in order to receive the respect you deserve.

You love yourself by owning your faults and working to fix them; by never stop trying to be the best you can be, both inside and outside.

You love yourself by forgiving yourself for all of the things you’ve done wrong.

You love yourself by giving yourself a break and letting Jesus take the wheel because He knows the way.

You love yourself by reminding yourself that you are loved and never alone; by asking Jesus to come into your life and show you what real love is.

You love yourself by putting Him first in your life, because He is there when nobody else is; because He knows everything about you and still loves you.

That’s how you love yourself. That’s what you deserve. That’s what you need. That’s how you love. I learned the hard way that not loving yourself opens the door to heartache and pain. I learned in order to be loved the right way, you must first know what that feels like. If you don’t, then you’ll accept anything and anything isn’t good enough.”

I’m thankful I went thru the bad to get to the good. I’m thankful I could answer her question. What about you, could you have answered her question? Have you been thru the bad to get to the good? Better question… do you know the good?


9784961-two-bathroom-scales-Stock-Vector_editedHave you ever weighed yourself and the scale didn’t put the correct number up? Hate when that happens; stupid scale. My bathroom scale is broken, so I weighed myself in the fitness room at work the other day. There are two different scales in there and they each displayed different numbers. I mean, totally different numbers. Which one should I go with?

Don’t worry I’m not going to write about losing weight or anything CRAZY like that. What I was thinking about today is how we read and hear things from different sources. Who or what should we believe? Do you go with what the cool people are saying or what the rebels are saying? Do you go with what your spouse or parents say or totally opposite of what they say?

Thanks to technology, news is available everywhere and at any time. Opinions, thoughts, and stories are also available for you to scroll though. When you think about it, it’s pretty awesome that we have this. Back in the day all we had was the television (with no cable) and the newspaper. Now it’s everywhere. I love it and definitely appreciate it, but sometimes the news and opinions of others can really mess you up.

There have been times the news has depressed me and angered me. The opinions of people I thought I knew shocked me. Then I got to thinking why would we all share the same opinions? We all grew up in different environments with different cultures. Some of us grew up not having to worry about the electricity being turned off or where the next meal was coming from and some of us did. Some of us were raised by two parents and some of us weren’t.

I say all of that to say this. I think the majority of us want peace and love to flow thru our country, but not all of us have the same definition of peace and love. We were all raised differently. What was taught in one home wasn’t taught in all homes. I do think however, it’s our responsibility to figure out what is right and what is wrong. What is false and what is true.

While you’re trying to figure this out, remember God has commanded us to love one another. He didn’t say to love only the people that share the same opinions as you.

Just like the scale, the world doesn’t always reflect how I feel and what I know. Only I can do that.

Weighing myself the other day was very frustrating. Just like our opinions, those two scales displayed different things. One scale makes me happy and the other scale not so much. The thing is… I know what I’ve been doing and not doing. I know the real deal and which one is right. So, I’m going with that one.